Would you rather questions for couples

Couples questions do two jobs at once: they're fun, and they quietly reveal how your partner thinks. Whether they'd rather split chores evenly or each do the ones they like tells you a lot. So does whether they want to talk through problems right away or take space first.

For a sweet date night, start with the romantic and date night sections. For a real conversation, try the future and deep sections. If you want to turn up the heat, head over to our spicy would you rather questions. You can also test how well you know each other with our free couples quiz.

Looking for every category in one place? See the full list of would you rather questions.

Tap an option to make your pick. Then ask the group what they'd choose.

Easy openers for dinner, a drive or a night on the couch.

• Would you rather have a cozy night in or a fancy night out?
• Would you rather cook dinner together or order takeout and watch a movie?
• Would you rather go on a picnic or go to a rooftop restaurant?
• Would you rather have a movie marathon or a board game marathon?
• Would you rather dance in the kitchen or sing karaoke together in public?
• Would you rather go on a double date or have a date just the two of us?
• Would you rather take a cooking class together or a dance class together?
• Would you rather watch the sunrise together or watch the sunset together?
• Would you rather plan every date or have every date planned for you?
• Would you rather recreate our first date or go somewhere completely new?
• Would you rather have date night every week or a weekend getaway every season?
• Would you rather go to a comedy show or go to a concert?
• Would you rather stay up all night talking or wake up early for a day of adventures?
• Would you rather have a spa day together or an adventure day together?
• Would you rather play a video game together or build a puzzle together?

The small stuff says a lot. These reveal habits, pet peeves and how you share a life.

• Would you rather always do the dishes or always do the laundry?
• Would you rather share one big blanket or have your own blankets?
• Would you rather have a clean house and no free time or a messy house and lots of free time?
• Would you rather wake up early together or sleep in together?
• Would you rather adopt a dog that needs daily walks or a cat that ignores both of you?
• Would you rather live in a big city or live in a small town?
• Would you rather have a small, cozy home or a big house with lots of space?
• Would you rather always pick the restaurant or always pick the movie?
• Would you rather share every meal or have your own snack drawer?
• Would you rather have the thermostat set to your temperature or have the TV remote forever?
• Would you rather split all chores evenly or each do the chores you like best?
• Would you rather do a full grocery run together every week or never set foot in a grocery store again?
• Would you rather have friends over every weekend or have a quiet weekend alone together?
• Would you rather share a bathroom sink or have separate sinks but a smaller closet?
• Would you rather fall asleep with the TV on or fall asleep in total silence?
• Would you rather text all day while apart or save everything to talk about in person?

Sweet, meaningful choices that make great conversation starters.

• Would you rather receive a handwritten love letter or a thoughtful surprise gift?
• Would you rather get breakfast in bed or a surprise date planned for you?
• Would you rather slow dance to our song or be serenaded in public?
• Would you rather relive our first kiss or relive the moment we said I love you?
• Would you rather have a song written about you or a painting made of you?
• Would you rather get flowers for no reason or get a surprise weekend trip?
• Would you rather say I love you every day or show it without words every day?
• Would you rather have our love story made into a movie or a book?
• Would you rather go back to the day we met or fast forward to our 50th anniversary?
• Would you rather get a love note in your lunch or a sweet text in the middle of the day?
• Would you rather have a partner who remembers every detail or a partner who always surprises you?
• Would you rather kiss in the rain or kiss under the stars?
• Would you rather renew our vows every ten years or celebrate our anniversary with a trip every year?
• Would you rather have a secret handshake or have a secret language only we know?

Bigger questions that help you check you're heading in the same direction.

• Would you rather travel the world together for a year or build our dream home together?
• Would you rather have a big wedding or have a small, intimate ceremony?
• Would you rather elope or have a traditional wedding?
• Would you rather retire early and live simply or work longer and retire in luxury?
• Would you rather live near your family or live near my family?
• Would you rather move abroad together or stay close to home?
• Would you rather have kids early or have kids later?
• Would you rather adopt a dog now or wait until we have a bigger home?
• Would you rather renovate an old house or build a brand new one?
• Would you rather save for a dream vacation or save for a dream home?
• Would you rather live by the beach or live in the mountains?
• Would you rather start a business together or keep work and love separate?
• Would you rather have a house full of kids or have a house full of pets?
• Would you rather grow old in one home or move somewhere new every decade?

For couples who love to plan their next trip.

• Would you rather go on a road trip or go on a cruise?
• Would you rather go camping or stay in a luxury hotel?
• Would you rather spend a week eating pastries in Paris or a week eating ramen in Tokyo?
• Would you rather go on a safari or go scuba diving?
• Would you rather backpack across Europe or relax at an all-inclusive resort?
• Would you rather take a trip with no plans or plan every detail?
• Would you rather visit every national park or visit every continent?
• Would you rather spend a week in a cabin or spend a week in a big city?
• Would you rather go skiing or go to a tropical island?
• Would you rather take a train across the country or fly somewhere new every year?

Fun questions to ask him, from silly to sweet.

• Would you rather be my personal chef or be my personal chauffeur?
• Would you rather watch my favorite show with me or play your favorite game with me?
• Would you rather wear matching outfits for a day or let me pick your outfit for a week?
• Would you rather go shopping with me all day or go to a sports game with me?
• Would you rather meet my whole family at once or meet them one at a time?
• Would you rather get a surprise party or a surprise trip?
• Would you rather never watch sports again or never play video games again?
• Would you rather hold hands everywhere we go or never hold hands in public?
• Would you rather be the big spoon or be the little spoon?
• Would you rather grow a beard for me or shave it off for me?

Playful questions to ask her that start real conversations.

• Would you rather get flowers every week or get jewelry once a year?
• Would you rather have a spa day or have an adventure day?
• Would you rather be surprised with a trip or plan the trip together?
• Would you rather have me cook for you or have me take you out?
• Would you rather get a love letter or get a playlist made just for you?
• Would you rather watch a romantic comedy or a horror movie while holding on to me?
• Would you rather have matching tattoos or matching phone wallpapers?
• Would you rather go stargazing or go to a fancy dinner?
• Would you rather be woken up with coffee or be woken up with a kiss?
• Would you rather get a puppy together or get a kitten together?

Honest questions about how you love and what you need.

• Would you rather know everything your partner is thinking or have them know everything you're thinking?
• Would you rather feel desired or feel respected?
• Would you rather fight and make up quickly or never fight but never fully talk things out?
• Would you rather be loved passionately for a short time or loved calmly for a lifetime?
• Would you rather have more quality time or have more words of affirmation?
• Would you rather talk through problems right away or take space before talking?
• Would you rather have a partner who is your best friend or a partner who is your biggest adventure?
• Would you rather feel completely safe or feel completely excited?
• Would you rather be told the hard truth or be protected from it?
• Would you rather change one thing about how we argue or one thing about how we spend our time?

Keep it light and silly with your partner.

• Would you rather have your partner narrate your life like a sports commentator or like a nature documentary?
• Would you rather switch bodies with your partner for a day or switch jobs for a day?
• Would you rather have your partner's snoring be louder or their morning breath be worse?
• Would you rather only communicate with each other through song or through emojis?
• Would you rather wear matching Halloween costumes every year or never dress up again?
• Would you rather let your partner cut your hair or let them pick your next tattoo?
• Would you rather have your partner post your worst photo or read your worst poem out loud?
• Would you rather eat your partner's cooking forever or let them eat yours forever?
• Would you rather be the one who always gets lost or the one who always loses things?
• Would you rather steal all the covers or get the covers stolen every night?

For couples who are apart. Play over text or on a video call.

• Would you rather video call every night or send long voice messages every day?
• Would you rather visit each other every month for a weekend or once every three months for two weeks?
• Would you rather get a surprise care package or a surprise visit?
• Would you rather watch a movie together online or play an online game together?
• Would you rather get a handwritten letter every week or a photo of your partner's day every night?
• Would you rather fall asleep on the phone together or say goodnight and hang up?
• Would you rather plan your next reunion trip or relive your last visit?
• Would you rather have a countdown clock until your next visit or be surprised by the date?

How to use these questions

• Guess your partner's answer before they say it. Score a point for every correct guess.
• Take turns reading. Whoever loses has to plan the next date.
• Save the future and deep questions for a relaxed moment, like a long drive or a quiet dinner.
• Long distance? Play over video call and answer at the same time on the count of three.

Frequently asked questions

What are good would you rather questions for couples?

Mix light and meaningful questions, like "Would you rather have a cozy night in or a fancy night out?" and "Would you rather travel the world together for a year or build our dream home?"

What would you rather questions can I ask my boyfriend?

Try "Would you rather be the big spoon or the little spoon?" or "Would you rather never watch sports again or never play video games again?" See the boyfriend section above.

What would you rather questions can I ask my girlfriend?

Try "Would you rather get flowers every week or jewelry once a year?" or "Would you rather go stargazing or to a fancy dinner?"

Are these questions good for long-distance couples?

Yes. There's a long-distance section, and every question works over text or video call.